Writing Parenthood

Writing Parenthood Being a writer, I knew that when I became a parent, I would want to document the experience. I meant to write more during pregnancy, but morning (read: all-day) sickness and extreme fatigue had other plans. Now that my son is here, I want to write about motherhood, but lets be honest: who wants to read overly sentimental, mushy-gushy crap that is better suited to a journal? No one. Which is why writing well about something is so hard. Especially something as subjective and as suffused with emotion as parenthood. Thats where books come in. Whenever I have a question or problem, I turn to books. While theres no shortage of parenting books or memoirs, there are considerably less books about writing parenthood. That being said, Ive found some excellent ones that I return to, again and again. (I havent looked for ones that target fathers, but Ive never stumbled upon one, either. I hope that one exists). Writing Motherhood  by Lisa Garrigues, is based on her writing workshops of the same name. This was the first book about writing parenthood that I ever read, and it remains one of my favorites. A combination of memoir, anecdotes from her class, and instruction guide, the writing prompts and excerpts from others writing propels you to think about how youre writing about the topic. Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers  by Kate Hopper, is another book that blends memoir and writing instruction, but this one focuses a bit more on the craft of writing itself, examining things like tense, voice, and structure. The writing prompts are plentiful and detailed, and really stretch your comfort zones. Anne Lamotts Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Sons First Year isnt a book about how to write parenthood, per se but it teaches the reader about good writing. Yes, she structures it as a journal and calls it such, but the prose is tight and clear, she steers away from self-pity, navel gazing, and sentimentality, and crafts a deeply personal, funny as hell, and heartbreaking book. She illustrates that parenthood is hard, gut-wrenching, and many of its experiences are universal, making the reader feel a lot less alone. Nurture the Wow: Finding Spirituality in the Frustration, Boredom, Tears, Poop, Desperation, Wonder, and Radical Amazement of Parenting  by Danya Ruttenberg, is another book thats not about writing, but teaches it, nonetheless. There have been several articles lately about the complex interplay between creativity and parenthood, and whether its possible to have both (but funny enough, it seems to focus on motherhood fatherhood is never seen as a problem to creativity/productivity). As a new parent, this book has been that reassuring voice letting me know that all the feelings of ambivalence, sleep deprivation, fear, uncertainty, and even joy, are all normal. It helps me stay sane which, in turn, allows me to write.